Selling a Senior’s Home in the Bay Area

Table of Contents

• Is it Time to Sell a Senior’s Home?
• Issues to Consider Prior to Starting the Process
• Senior Housing Options
• Adapting a Home for Seniors
• Medicare, Medi-Cal and Other Healthcare Plans
• Financial Considerations for Seniors
• Selling a Senior’s Current Home
• Packing and Moving
• Resources for Senior Home Sellers
• Frequently Asked Questions

Is it Time to Sell a Senior’s Home?

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Are you thinking of selling your home to move to a senior-supportive environment? Or perhaps to move in with an adult son or daughter who can help with your needs as you grow older? Or are you the adult child of a parent who has reached the point where a move to a senior community is on the horizon?

You may be considering leaving the family home with all that it represents, the place where the children were raised, the safety and security of the family unit, and the physical space where your oldest and dearest memories live. For many seniors it holds the best years of their lives, and it’s where friendships and community ties were made.

Many seniors would prefer to keep living in their own home, or aging in place. Sometimes circumstances work against that preference, and I’ve seen every one of these come up with families here in Silicon Valley:

• Home maintenance becomes a burden
• A major life event, like a fall, a hospital stay or the loss of a spouse, forces the question
• An aging parent wants to live closer to adult children or other caregivers
• Financial concerns make it difficult to keep the home, or the family needs the equity to pay for care
• Support services are needed that aren’t available at home
• A parent passes away, leaving the home for the family to clean out and sell

If you’re not sure whether it’s time, my article on the seven warning signs that aging in place has become a liability is a good place to start, and my 10-year cost comparison of aging in place versus moving puts real numbers on the decision. Whatever the reason, there may come a time when parents, along with their adult children, consider selling and moving on. This page is designed to help guide your family through the complex issues and unique situations you may run into along the way.

Selling a Senior’s Home is Different

Many homeowners have bought and sold homes before. Selling a senior’s home can be much more complicated, though, because of the number of unique issues and decisions, and sometimes the number of people involved. Seniors usually make the decision to sell themselves, but it’s common for adult children to help them work through questions like these:

• Is moving the best alternative? If so, where? Have other options been explored?
• Are close family members on board with a decision to sell? (If they aren’t, read my guide to handling sibling conflict during a parent’s home sale.)
• What’s the best way to downsize a lifetime’s worth of possessions and family heirlooms?
• What are the tax implications of a sale, including capital gains and property taxes on the next home?
• How will a sale affect future income, expenses and eligibility for benefits like Medi-Cal?

The financial, logistical and emotional issues involved in a move can be stressful for a family to navigate. Senior parents and their adult children may feel they’re in unfamiliar waters as they deal with these questions.

A real estate professional who has experience with seniors’ issues, and who can put you in touch with other similarly trained advisors, can be an invaluable resource at this time. You can count on me to help guide you through the process and its special considerations, making the transaction less stressful and more successful.

A Seniors Real Estate Specialist® (SRES®) is a REALTOR® who is specially trained to help people 50 and older with housing sales and purchases. The designation is awarded by the SRES® Council, part of the National Association of REALTORS®, and requires additional education on later-in-life real estate transactions. SRES® agents also draw on a network of senior specialists, such as estate planning attorneys, CPAs and elder law attorneys, and they’re familiar with local community resources and services.

Their mission is to help seniors and their families navigate the maze of financial, legal and emotional issues that come with selling the home. In addition to the SRES®, I hold the Certified Senior Advisor® (CSA) and Certified Aging-in-Place Specialist (CAPS) designations, so I can help families look at staying put as seriously as selling.

What qualities make a Seniors Real Estate Specialist® different? An SRES®:

• Has knowledge, experience and compassion in dealing with senior issues.
• Can suggest housing alternatives, including ones that may allow an aging parent to remain in the home instead of selling it.
• Takes a no-pressure approach to the transaction and has a strong service orientation.
• Will take the time needed to make a client feel comfortable with the complex selling process.
• Understands the emotional demands a sale can make on a senior, and tries to minimize them.
• Tailors the marketing of a home to the needs of an older client.
• Can interact easily with all generations, including seniors, adult children and caregivers.
• Is knowledgeable about local senior housing options and elder support services.
• Has a wide network of other senior-focused professionals who can help with tax counseling, financial and estate planning, and other parts of the sale and move.

If you’re interviewing agents, my list of 20 questions to ask a senior real estate specialist before hiring one will help you tell the real specialists from the ones who just added a word to their bio.

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The Seniors Real Estate Specialist® (SRES®)

Selling a senior’s most valued and valuable asset, their home, and handling the move that follows often calls for expertise on a number of different fronts. One compelling reason to choose a Seniors Real Estate Specialist® is that you’ll gain access to their network of related service professionals. For seniors, that includes specialists across a wide range of financial, legal, property and personal services, from estate planning to downsizing.

Sometimes an older parent already has a trusted attorney and accountant. If they don’t, an SRES® can usually refer them and their adult children to elder law attorneys, estate planners, financial planners and tax advisors with experience in elder issues.

An SRES® maintains a professional network that includes people who can help with various steps of the sale and move, including:

• The decision to sell: HUD-approved reverse mortgage counselors can look at ways to use the home’s equity so a senior can stay in the home, if that’s preferred.
• Before listing: tax specialists and financial planners who can look at ways to protect assets and reduce taxes.
• Preparing the home for showings: handymen, landscapers and decluttering specialists.
• Legal considerations: estate planning, trust and real estate attorneys who can help with authority to sell, trust administration and closing.
• Moving: senior move managers, estate sale companies, movers and storage facilities.

An SRES® also has ties throughout the local senior community. Many of us actively take part in senior and community service organizations and can provide referrals to resources such as Meals on Wheels, public benefit offices, transitional services coaches, grief counselors and other services as needed. Here in Santa Clara County, the Area Agency on Aging is Sourcewise, and it’s a great first call for local programs. My complete guide to senior citizen resources in Silicon Valley lists many more.

Issues to Consider Prior to Starting the Process

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Are all relevant family members aware of the upcoming sale and the reasons for it?

It’s a good idea to have a family discussion about the decision to sell before anyone signs anything. Adult children often have strong emotional stakes in the sale, and some family members may not want to say goodbye to the home. A family talk can prevent misunderstandings later and avoid delays in the process. If the move involves significant downsizing, this is also a good time to bring up property and possessions. If you’re not sure how to start that conversation, here’s my advice on how to talk to your aging parents about selling the family home.

Have the tax consequences of a sale been considered?

Selling a home that’s been owned for decades can trigger significant taxes. Under current federal law, reinvesting the proceeds in another home does not defer the gain (that rule ended in 1997). Instead, a seller who has owned and lived in the home for at least two of the last five years can exclude up to $250,000 of gain, or $500,000 for a married couple, and anything above that is taxable by both the IRS and California. Before listing a home, it’s a good idea to consult a CPA or tax advisor to see how a sale will affect your finances. If you don’t have an advisor, your SRES® can give you a list of referrals to choose from, and my guide to capital gains tax when selling a Silicon Valley home you’ve owned for 30+ years walks through the details.

Will an adult child be acting on behalf of a parent in the sale?

If an aging parent is ill or incapacitated, another family member will need legal authority to make binding decisions about the home. That authority usually comes from one of two places. If the home is held in a living trust, the successor trustee named in the trust can sell it once the parent is unable to act. If it isn’t, a durable power of attorney that specifically covers real estate must be signed while the parent still has capacity. Title companies will want to review the document and usually record it, so get it to your agent and escrow officer early. If neither is in place and the parent can no longer sign, the family may need to go to court for a conservatorship, which takes months, so this is worth handling now. My article on power of attorney and real estate goes deeper.

If family members are helping a parent with the sale, has one person been chosen to be the contact for communicating with the professionals?

It’s best to have one family member take the lead in communicating with the SRES® and other professionals. Multiple contacts create confusion and delays, and they’re especially hard to manage when siblings live in different time zones. My guide to long-distance caregiving and selling a parent’s home covers how to set that up.

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What to Expect from Your SRES®

A REALTOR® who works as an SRES® does so because they enjoy working with seniors, and the decision to earn the designation is usually rooted in a desire to help others. It means your REALTOR®:

• has respect for older people;
• has the ability to listen deeply and ask the right questions;
• knows how to communicate the old-fashioned way, with a handshake and a visit.

Be prepared to sit and chat for a while. They’ll want to take time to get to know you and your family’s situation, just as you’ll want to learn more about them. An SRES® understands that this can be a stressful time for a family.

It’s hard to leave a home after spending many years in it, and sometimes the parent would really prefer to keep living there. Your agent wants to understand the challenges you all face in this major decision so they can present every available option and help you land on an outcome that suits the family’s needs.

At times the amount of information coming your way may feel overwhelming. An SRES® is there to help by tailoring meetings to a senior’s needs. Don’t be afraid to ask as many questions as you’d like until you’re comfortable with the steps of the sale and the other details. An SRES® may suggest taking breaks so you can absorb the information, and may break the pre-listing process up over several visits to your home.

Senior Housing Options

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Why does the senior want to sell, and where are they moving?

Making the decision to move can be difficult. Sharing the reasons for moving, whether they’re financial, care-related or something else, helps your SRES® lay out a broad range of options and make the process as easy as possible.

Some seniors can take comfort in knowing their next home will be with an adult child. Other seniors and their families face the task of choosing a home that will meet their needs for care, community and comfort. Choosing housing that meets your family’s current needs and anticipates future ones can be a challenge, and depending on the level of care, it can require a significant financial commitment. Silicon Valley has some of the most expensive assisted living and memory care in the country, so the sale of the house often has to fund years of care.

Your SRES® can help you navigate this process. They can:

• Familiarize you with the types of senior housing available in your area.
• Suggest important questions to ask when you visit communities.
• Refer you to professionals who can help you compare the true costs of each option, figure out which are affordable, and review the contracts involved.
• Suggest an Aging Life Care Professional® (formerly called a geriatric care manager) to help assess the parent’s needs.

Types of Senior Housing

Senior housing is categorized by the level of care available to residents. At one end of the spectrum are communities that offer little or no care, and at the other are facilities that provide round-the-clock nursing care. In between is a wide range of choices that can adapt to changing needs. For a side-by-side look at costs here, see my Silicon Valley guide to independent living vs. assisted living vs. memory care.

Retirement or age-restricted communities:

• Are usually made up of single-family homes, manufactured homes and condominiums, and in some cases senior apartments
• Are either 55+ communities, where at least 80% of occupied homes must have at least one resident 55 or older under the federal Housing for Older Persons Act, or 62+ communities, where every resident must be 62 or older
• Are designed for older adults who are physically able to care for themselves
• May offer basic services like housekeeping, laundry and transportation, but seldom offer medical care or more involved support services
• Are often built with universal design features, so they’re more accessible

The best-known local example is The Villages Golf and Country Club in San Jose. My article on active adult vs. age-restricted communities explains the differences.

Assisted living:

• Provides seniors with support services in a community setting
• Is licensed in California by the Department of Social Services as a Residential Care Facility for the Elderly (RCFE), and you can look up any facility’s license and inspection history
• Accepts residents who may have medical problems but don’t need continuous skilled nursing care
• Is usually apartment-style, but also includes small residential care homes (often called “board and care” homes) in single-family houses with six or fewer residents
• Encourages residents to bring their own furnishings so the apartment feels like home
• Generally offers a wide range of activities, clubs, and transportation to religious services, appointments, cultural events and shopping
• Often accepts pets
• Encourages residents to stay independent while giving them access to care and support when needed
• Offers help with activities of daily living such as bathing, grooming, dressing and medication management
• Varies widely in cost, and is generally paid privately, since Medicare doesn’t cover it

If you’re heading down this road, my checklist for moving a parent into assisted living and my list of favorite assisted living communities in Silicon Valley will save you a lot of legwork.

Memory care:

• Is a secured unit or community for people living with Alzheimer’s disease or other dementias
• Is often part of an assisted living community and licensed the same way in California
• Has specially trained staff, structured daily programs and secured exits to prevent wandering
• Costs more than standard assisted living because of higher staffing levels

Families in this situation should read my guide to moving a parent with dementia or cognitive decline.

Skilled nursing facilities (nursing homes):

• Provide continuous, 24-hour care for people who are chronically ill or recovering from a hospital stay
• Have physicians available, though most monitoring and care is provided by licensed nurses and nursing assistants
• Usually have physical, occupational and speech therapists on staff
• Resemble a hospital setting
• Are expensive because they provide full-time care
• Are covered by Medicare only for short-term skilled care after a qualifying hospital stay (up to 100 days per benefit period, with a daily copay after day 20), not for long-term custodial care
• May be covered by Medi-Cal for people who qualify
• Must meet federal standards to participate in Medicare and Medicaid, and are also licensed by the California Department of Public Health
• May be run for profit, or by nonprofit groups like religious organizations

See my guide to the best nursing homes for seniors in the Bay Area.

Continuing care retirement communities (CCRCs):

• Represent a “continuum of care” approach, where all of a resident’s needs can be met on one campus
• Offer independent living, assisted living, memory care and skilled nursing, typically close to one another
• Usually require residents to enter at the independent living level while they’re still healthy, with the assurance that if their health declines, they’ll move to the next level of care when needed
• Typically charge a substantial entrance fee plus monthly fees, and depending on the contract, part of the entrance fee may be refundable to the resident or their estate
• Are mostly entrance-fee communities, though some operate on a rental basis
• Have complex contracts because of the levels of service offered and the terms for moving between them, and in California they’re regulated by the Department of Social Services’ Continuing Care Contracts Branch

For local examples, see my profiles of Saratoga Retirement Community, The Terraces of Los Gatos and The Forum at Rancho San Antonio.

Steps in Choosing Senior Housing

Determine what level of care is needed

Most housing choices are driven by the care needs of an elderly parent. Can the senior take care of most of their personal needs but would enjoy having meals, laundry and housekeeping done for them? Would medication management, an emergency response system and on-site nursing give the family more peace of mind? Does the parent need help with bathing, grooming and dressing? Are there concerns about memory? A senior’s needs will change over time. Your SRES® can refer you to an Aging Life Care Professional® who can help you determine the kind of care needed.

Examine financial resources

Housing and long-term care costs can use up most or all of a senior’s savings, and budgeting for them is difficult as needs change. Elder law attorneys and financial planners can help seniors and their families structure their resources to pay for housing and care, and elder law attorneys know which expenses are and aren’t covered by Medicare and Medi-Cal.

Visit senior housing options in your area

Your SRES® can point you to guides and other resources that sort local communities by the level of care they provide. Visit the ones that look like a fit. Ask questions, eat a meal there, and talk with other families visiting loved ones. Also check the license and inspection history for any community you’re considering.

After choosing a community, have an elder law attorney review the contract before signing

Contracts for long-term care, and especially for CCRCs, tend to be very complex. An elder law attorney can spot potential problems with the contract and help you resolve them before you sign.

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Adapting a Home for Seniors

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Most seniors would prefer to age in place, but health and mobility issues can keep them from using the whole house. Raised thresholds and bathrooms are fall risks, doorknobs become hard to turn, and stairs get hard to climb. Seniors may feel trapped in certain parts of their homes, which pushes them to consider moving when they don’t really want to.

Accessibility and safety can also become issues when an aging parent moves in with an adult child, which often leads to renovations. It can be hard for a homeowner to know what changes are needed and how to make them. In Silicon Valley, many families solve this by adding an ADU for a parent, which California has made much easier to permit in recent years.

In these situations, your SRES® may be able to refer you to a Certified Aging-in-Place Specialist (CAPS) who can evaluate your home, find the problem areas and suggest modifications. CAPS professionals are trained in:

• The unique needs of older adults
• Aging-in-place home modifications
• Common remodeling projects
• Solutions to common barriers

The answer may be as simple as adding grab bars in bathrooms, flattening thresholds, and installing brighter lighting and comfort-height toilets. In other cases, significant remodeling may be needed to overcome the challenges of two-story living. An aging-in-place specialist can advise on which changes will help most and suggest cost-effective approaches, and some technology really does help, as I cover in smart home technology for aging in place.

Check out my guide to adapting a Bay Area home for seniors to age in place.

Meeting Healthcare and Other Needs

As the years pass, even the most independent people may need help with basic daily needs. For seniors moving into a residence that provides care, that help comes with the move. If a senior decides to stay in their home, or is moving in with a son or daughter, daily caregiving can become a major concern.

An adult child living nearby is usually the first among the siblings to notice that a parent needs help. There may be more requests for help around the house, or a noticeable decline in how the home is kept up. Perhaps there’s a health crisis. Whatever the cause, it may be a good time for the parent and the relevant family members to talk about a plan for meeting the senior’s medical and other needs. When the family looks for help, my guide to finding great in-home caregivers in Silicon Valley is a good starting point.

Identifying a Senior’s Needs

A care plan should identify what kinds of help are needed, how those needs will be met and by whom. Depending on the living situation, the plan could cover:

• Managing and dispensing medications
• Providing needed in-home medical services
• Transportation to doctor’s and other appointments
• Help understanding doctors’ advice and health conditions, and making health care decisions
• Managing and paying bills and filing insurance claims
• Laundry, housekeeping and grocery shopping
• Meal preparation
• Home repair and maintenance
• Pet care
• Emergency response systems, such as a push-button bracelet or necklace, or a fall-detection watch
• Respite care for family caregivers

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Medicare, Medi-Cal and Other Healthcare Plans

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Families should review their parent’s health benefits to see whether the kinds of care needed are covered. Medicare covers hospital and doctor care, and it covers home health care and skilled nursing facility care only on a short-term, medically necessary basis. It does not pay for long-term custodial care, which is the kind of help with bathing, dressing and supervision most families end up needing.

Medicare Supplement (Medigap) plans help pay Original Medicare’s deductibles and coinsurance, but they don’t cover prescriptions, which come through a separate Part D plan. Medicare Advantage plans bundle hospital, medical and usually drug coverage. Medi-Cal, California’s Medicaid program, can cover long-term nursing home care and some in-home help through programs like In-Home Supportive Services (IHSS) for people who meet its income and asset rules. Those rules changed on January 1, 2026, when California reinstated a Medi-Cal asset limit of $130,000 for an individual plus $65,000 for each additional household member. The home is generally exempt, but cash from selling it isn’t, which is why the timing of a sale matters so much. I explain this in detail in what happens to your home when a parent goes on Medi-Cal.

Private long-term care insurance can also cover portions of in-home care, assisted living and nursing home care, depending on the policy. If your parent has a policy, find it early, because most have an elimination period before benefits start.

Figuring out medical and in-home care needs and sorting through plan benefits and available programs can be overwhelming. For free, unbiased Medicare counseling, California’s Health Insurance Counseling and Advocacy Program (HICAP) can be reached at (800) 434-0222. If you need help deciding what services are available and where to find them, your SRES® may be able to refer you to a local Aging Life Care Professional®, a professional who assesses and helps manage seniors’ needs, as well as to groups and agencies in the community that provide in-home senior services.

Caregiver Assistance

Adult children acting as caregivers may find that they need help too. Caregiving can be especially stressful depending on the level of care needed and whether the son or daughter also works outside the home. Caregiver support and respite programs exist to provide a well-needed break. Information can be found through the Eldercare Locator and AARP’s caregiving resources.

Home and Community-Based Senior Services

The Eldercare Locator is a free public service of the U.S. Administration on Aging that connects older adults, caregivers and professionals with local resources across a broad range of needs. To find home and community-based services in your area, contact the Eldercare Locator at (800) 677-1116 or at eldercare.acl.gov.

Here are the kinds of services the Eldercare Locator can help you find:

• Adult day care
• Aging and disability resource centers
• Caregiver programs
• Case management services, which assess the needs of older adults and arrange services to keep them independent
• Elder abuse prevention programs
• Emergency response systems that let homebound people summon help
• Employment services
• Financial services, including counseling on financial management and benefit programs
• Home health services
• Home repair
• Home modification
• Information and referral services
• Legal assistance
• Nutrition services
• Personal care
• Respite care
• Senior housing options
• Telephone reassurance and safety checks for homebound seniors
• Transportation
• Volunteer services

Financial Considerations for Seniors

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Your SRES® will want to talk about the financial issues surrounding your decision to sell. For seniors who want to age in place but feel they can’t afford to, your SRES® can help you learn more about reverse mortgages, a way to draw on your home’s equity to help pay living expenses, and other ways to unlock equity. They may also point you to benefit programs that can help with monthly bills. For seniors who plan to sell and move on, your SRES® will want to talk through the financial implications of the sale.

Reverse Mortgages

A reverse mortgage lets a homeowner 62 or older tap home equity for cash without making monthly mortgage payments. Nearly all reverse mortgages are FHA-insured Home Equity Conversion Mortgages (HECMs), and for 2026 the maximum home value HUD will lend against is $1,249,125. A reverse mortgage:

• Is a loan against your home’s equity.
• Requires no monthly payments as long as you live in the home as your primary residence, but you must keep paying property taxes and homeowners insurance and maintain the home, or the loan can be called due.
• Is repaid when the last borrower dies, sells the home, or moves out permanently (including being away for more than 12 months in a row for health reasons, such as living in a care facility).
• Can be taken as a lump sum, a line of credit, monthly payments, or a combination.
• Is non-recourse. You or your heirs will never owe more than the home is worth, and heirs who want to keep the home can pay off the loan for the lesser of the balance or 95% of the appraised value.
• Requires a counseling session with a HUD-approved counselor before you apply.

An SRES® works with reverse mortgage counselors and lenders to give clients alternatives to selling. These professionals can help older homeowners determine eligibility and estimate how much is available based on the home’s value, the youngest borrower’s age and current interest rates. A reverse mortgage can also be used to buy a home, which I explain in my guide to reverse mortgage purchase loans in California. You can read more in my quick guide to reverse mortgages for Bay Area seniors, from the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau, and from HUD’s HECM program page.

Seniors should consider whether to discuss borrowing against the home with their adult children, since a reverse mortgage leaves less home equity for heirs. If a parent has already passed away with a reverse mortgage, see what happens when your parent dies with a reverse mortgage.

Other Ways to Help Ease Expenses

Whether you decide to sell and move on or stay in your home, you may qualify for programs that can reduce your expenses. Many seniors who qualify never apply because they don’t know the programs exist. Your SRES® may be able to direct you to community, government and private programs that provide additional financial help. Some examples:

• Supplemental Security Income (SSI), administered by the Social Security Administration, provides monthly cash benefits to people 65 or older, blind or disabled who have limited income and resources. In California, SSI comes with a state supplement (SSP). To learn more, go to ssa.gov/ssi or call (800) 772-1213.
• Programs exist to help with medical and prescription costs, including Medicare Savings Programs and Extra Help with Part D drug costs. AARP is a good resource, or call (888) 687-2277.
• California offers several property tax breaks for seniors. Proposition 19 lets homeowners 55 and older (or severely disabled) transfer their property tax base to a replacement home anywhere in California, up to three times, as long as the new home is bought within two years of selling the old one. If the replacement costs more than the home sold, the difference is added to the base. My complete Prop 19 explainer for seniors walks through the math. The State Controller’s Property Tax Postponement program also lets qualifying homeowners 62 and older, blind or disabled defer current-year property taxes if they meet the income and equity requirements.
• For help with utility bills and other expenses, contact the Eldercare Locator at (800) 677-1116 or eldercare.acl.gov, use the National Council on Aging’s BenefitsCheckUp, and see AARP’s Guide to Public Benefits in California. California’s utility assistance program (LIHEAP) is run through the Department of Community Services and Development, and food assistance is available through CalFresh.

Taking a reverse mortgage generally doesn’t count as income, but loan proceeds you keep in the bank can count as assets for programs like SSI and Medi-Cal. Talk to your reverse mortgage counselor about how it might affect your situation.

Financial Consequences of Selling Your Home

Many factors affect how much money you’ll net from the sale of your home and how the proceeds will affect your financial future. Looking at tax issues before listing is far better than getting an unexpectedly large tax bill later. Tax and estate planning can help you maximize your proceeds and anticipate the effect on future income, and your SRES® can recommend legal, accounting and tax professionals to help.

How will taxes affect the sale proceeds? Taxes can take a big bite out of the proceeds, especially if the home was bought decades ago when Bay Area prices were a fraction of what they are today. Your gain is the selling price, minus selling expenses, minus your cost basis (the original purchase price plus the cost of capital improvements). If you’ve owned and lived in the home for at least two of the past five years, you can exclude up to $250,000 of gain if you’re single, or up to $500,000 if you’re married filing jointly, under Section 121 of the tax code (see IRS Publication 523). Gain above the exclusion is taxed federally at long-term capital gains rates of up to 20%, possibly plus the 3.8% net investment income tax, and California taxes it as ordinary income at rates up to 13.3%.

Several rules matter a lot for older sellers:

• Moving into care. If an owner becomes physically or mentally unable to care for themselves and moves into a licensed care facility, the time spent there counts as living in the home, as long as they lived in the home for at least one year during the five years before the sale. That keeps the exclusion available even after a long stay in assisted living.
• Surviving spouse. A widow or widower can still claim the full $500,000 exclusion if the home is sold within two years of the spouse’s death and the other requirements are met. In California, community property held by a married couple typically gets a full step-up in basis on both halves when the first spouse dies, which can eliminate most or all of the gain. See my guide to selling a Silicon Valley home after your spouse died.
• Selling now vs. inheriting later. Heirs who inherit a home generally get a stepped-up basis equal to its value at the owner’s death, so a home sold by the children shortly after a parent’s death often carries little or no capital gains tax. When a parent is weighing a sale during life, that trade-off belongs in the conversation with the CPA.

Losses on the sale of a personal residence generally aren’t deductible. Capital gains tax laws are complex and change over time, so it’s highly advisable to have a tax specialist look at your situation. If your gain is well above the exclusion, my article on reducing capital gains after you’ve maxed out the $500K exemption covers additional strategies, including structured installment sales.

What other factors can affect net proceeds? If there’s a reverse mortgage on the property, it must be repaid when the home is sold. You and your heirs can’t be required to repay more than the home’s value. If the home sells for less than the loan balance, FHA insurance covers the difference. Check with your reverse mortgage servicer or loan documents for the specifics of repayment.

If a parent has been receiving Medi-Cal benefits after age 55, the state may seek to recover the cost of certain benefits after their death. Since 2017, California limits Medi-Cal estate recovery to assets that go through probate, so a home held in a living trust or passed to a surviving spouse is generally protected. An elder law attorney can tell you how this applies to your family.

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How will sale proceeds affect other sources of income and benefits?

Many government benefits for older adults are means-tested, meaning eligibility depends on income and assets. In many programs, including Medi-Cal and SSI, the home you live in isn’t counted as an asset, but the cash from selling it is. Selling your home can change your situation and your eligibility, and federal and state programs have different rules, so get advice before making decisions.

How will the sale of your home affect your estate?

The answer depends on many factors, such as how title is held, whether the house is in a trust, and whether your estate will have to go through probate. For 2026, the federal estate tax exemption is $15 million per person, and it’s now indexed for inflation, so very few families owe federal estate tax. California has no estate or inheritance tax. For most Bay Area families, avoiding probate and preserving the step-up in basis matter far more than estate tax. My guides to the California probate process, selling a house in a trust after a parent dies and selling a house in probate in Santa Clara County cover what heirs need to know.

What’s the best way to deal with these issues? Use a team of professionals who know these areas. Your advisors should include, but not be limited to:

• a CPA or tax specialist who looks at how taxes will affect the sale;
• a financial planner who analyzes your sources of income and future needs, and suggests ways to meet them;
• an elder law attorney who can advise you on trusts, wills, health care directives, and Medicare and Medi-Cal rules, and guide you through legal issues around the home sale and your next move.

Because the laws around senior issues are so complicated, something like selling property can affect areas that seem unrelated but are critical to a senior’s well-being, such as eligibility for benefits. It’s important to work with an attorney who specializes in elder law and can structure legal documents and transactions in a way that protects the assets, benefits and rights of an aging parent.

An attorney can help in many parts of the sale and move, including:

• estate and trust planning to minimize taxes on the sale of property
• powers of attorney and health care directives in case of a parent’s illness, incapacity or death during the listing period or before closing
• the disposition of personal property in a will or trust
• the potential effects of the sale on other sources of income and benefits
• reviewing all documents and contracts related to the sale
• identifying and assessing eligibility for senior assistance programs
• reviewing contracts with assisted living communities, CCRCs and nursing homes

The Role of Elder Law Attorneys

Legal problems affecting older adults are growing in number, and the laws and regulations are becoming more complex. Actions an older person takes on a single matter can have unintended legal effects, so it’s important for attorneys working with older clients to have a broad understanding of the laws that can affect a situation. Elder law attorneys understand issues specific to seniors and have deep knowledge across a number of senior-related areas. According to the National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys, these include:

• Preservation and transfer of assets to avoid spousal impoverishment when a spouse enters a nursing home
• Medi-Cal (Medicaid) planning
• Medicare claims and appeals
• Social Security and disability claims and appeals
• Disability planning, including durable powers of attorney, living trusts and advance health care directives, for financial management and health care decisions if a person becomes incapacitated
• Conservatorships and guardianships
• Estate planning, including managing one’s estate during life and its distribution at death through trusts, wills and other documents
• Probate
• Administration and management of trusts and estates
• Long-term care placements in nursing homes and life care communities
• Nursing home issues, including patients’ rights and quality of care
• Elder abuse and fraud recovery cases
• Retirement, including public and private retirement, survivor and pension benefits
• Health law and mental health law

The National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys

Most elder law attorneys don’t handle every one of these areas, so be sure to ask which ones they do. Your SRES® can refer you to elder law attorneys in your area, or you can search the directory of the National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys at naela.org or call (703) 942-5711. Here in Santa Clara County, Senior Adults Legal Assistance (SALA) offers free legal help to residents 60 and older.

Selling a Senior’s Current Home

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Selling a home is rarely simple, and selling a senior’s home can add more considerations and complexity. Your SRES® can adjust parts of their marketing to fit the needs of older homeowners. Here are the main steps you can expect once the listing agreement is signed:

• Pricing considerations
• Staging your home
• Showing your home
• Negotiating the sale and closing
• Packing and moving

For a week-by-week version of this process, see my 90-day senior move plan. It’s also worth reading the 10 biggest mistakes families make when selling a senior loved one’s home before you start.

Pricing Considerations

Setting a price on a home can be emotionally difficult. Much of the value a family places on the home comes from their experiences there, and the things you value might not line up with what buyers value. Your SRES® can guide you through the hard work of finding the right market price. The process involves several steps:

• analyzing your home;
• comparing it to the local market;
• taking into account an aging parent’s special circumstances.

Research has found that older sellers tend to sell for less than younger sellers with similar homes, often because the home is dated or the sale is rushed. I explain why, and how to avoid it, in why Silicon Valley seniors sell their homes for less.

Analyzing Your Home

Your SRES® will begin assessing your home’s value by:

• Looking at the home’s size, layout and lot. How many square feet of usable living space does it have? How many bedrooms and bathrooms?
• Identifying which features will attract buyers. What makes your home special? Have the kitchen or baths been updated? Is it a single-story home, which many buyers are looking for?
• Looking at the home from the curb. Does the yard have features that make it special, like a garden, professional landscaping or nice views?
• Examining the interior and exterior. Is the home in good repair? For areas that need work, how much will repairs cost, and are they worth doing before the sale?

Comparative Market Analysis

After documenting your home’s features and condition, your SRES® will go to the MLS for current listings and homes that have recently sold in your area. The goal is to find homes comparable to yours in size, number of bedrooms and baths, features and condition, close to your neighborhood. This report is called a Comparative Market Analysis (CMA).

Your agent will show you comparable properties now on the market, their asking prices and how long they’ve been for sale. For homes that sold recently, you’ll be able to compare the original asking price to the final sale price. In some cases your SRES® may take you to see other homes for sale in your area. You can also look at local trends yourself on my Bay Area real estate sales charts.

Your Family’s Special Considerations

Your SRES® knows the local market and will suggest a list price that gets the best result within your family’s timeframe. That timeframe often depends on a move-in date at a senior community, a care need, or trust or probate deadlines, and pricing strategy should reflect it. When the home needs a lot of work, selling as-is is often the better path for an older owner. Be very careful with “we buy houses” cash offers, which I’ve seen cost senior homeowners hundreds of thousands of dollars.

Staging the Home

Preparing your home to be shown is called staging. The goal is to put the home’s best foot forward for buyers, and it usually happens before the For Sale sign goes up. Staging involves getting the outside and inside of the home in top shape. Inside, it might involve:

• Hiring a service to do a thorough top-to-bottom cleaning.
• Calling a handyman for necessary or cosmetic repairs. Does a faucet leak? Does the back door stick? Items like these leave negative impressions on buyers, so it’s best to fix them before the home is shown.
• Deciding how each room can look its best. Rooms look smaller when they’re full of things, so storing some of a room’s contents creates a sense of space. Your SRES® can share tricks of the trade.

Outdoor staging focuses on the home’s exterior and yard, especially from the curb. It might involve:

• Hiring a gardener to mow, trim and clean up the yard.
• Using a handyman for basic exterior repairs, like fixing a sagging gutter or repainting flaking trim.

Staging can be stressful for a senior because it may mean moving and storing treasured objects. Family involvement can make it easier, and it may be a natural time to pass some heirlooms on. It’s also important to put away valuables and prescription medications you don’t want handled by visitors. The goal of staging is to make the house look its best and also to protect the things that matter most. My guide to home staging in Silicon Valley has more detail.

Showing Your Home

Showing a home while the owner is there can put a seller in the awkward position of feeling pressed to answer a buyer’s sensitive questions. For that reason, agents usually prefer sellers to be out of the house during showings. There are two types of showings:

• Open houses, when the house is open for a few hours to agents and potential buyers. Your agent is present during open houses and asks visitors to sign in.
• Private showings, when an agent, not necessarily your SRES®, brings buyers to your home, shows them around and discusses its features.

An SRES® knows there are often special considerations in showing a senior’s home. It’s common for buyers’ agents to call on short notice, and they may want to show the home at times that work for buyers with jobs but are inconvenient for an older homeowner.

If you prefer showings during certain hours, or by appointment only, your agent can put these requirements in the listing. If you can’t leave the home during a showing, your SRES® can note that too and arrange to be present when other agents show it. For some families, an off-market or private sale avoids showings almost entirely.

During showings and open houses, it’s important to put prescription drugs and valuables out of sight. Many seniors like to keep medications visible and arranged in the order they take them. Your SRES® can suggest ways to keep your medications safe while preserving your system for managing them. Your SRES® works with your best interests in mind and will adapt their practices to meet your needs.

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Disclosures

California requires sellers to disclose known material facts about the property, and most sellers complete the Transfer Disclosure Statement and Seller Property Questionnaire. This can be hard when an owner has memory issues or the home is being sold by a trustee or an agent under a power of attorney who never lived there. Trustees and court-supervised probate sales are exempt from the Transfer Disclosure Statement, but they still have to disclose what they know. Your agent can help you complete disclosures accurately, and ordering a pre-listing home inspection is a good way to learn about issues up front. See my quick guide to Bay Area home sale disclosures.

Negotiating the Sale and Closing

An offer comes in on your home. In slower markets, when sellers outnumber buyers, buyers sometimes make offers well below expectations. How does a homeowner know whether an offer is reasonable and serious?

Your SRES® will present the offer and has handled many similar situations before. Your agent understands how your local market is behaving right now and can look at the factors that show whether the offer deserves serious consideration.

Remember that negotiation almost always involves give and take. This is a good time for the family to get together, in person or on a call, and discuss the offer. Leaving a sibling out of the discussion can cause more pain down the road. Your SRES® will give you and your family unbiased advice, but will always act in the best interests of the homeowner, and will help you decide whether to counter and guide you through the negotiation.

At closing, you’ll sign the final documents that transfer ownership of the home. In California, most of the signing happens with an escrow officer or a notary before the closing date. Your SRES® will be there to explain the process and documents, as should your attorney if you have one. If the owner will need a little time after closing to move, a rent-back can be negotiated. You’ll receive the proceeds from the sale, minus selling costs and any loans paid off, and you’re ready to move on.

Packing and Moving

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Moving from the family home can be overwhelming, especially when you face a lifetime of possessions and have to decide what to bring and what to let go. These decisions can be paralyzing because each item can set off a walk down memory lane.

Family members can help a parent sort, pack and move, but sometimes hiring a third party is the best choice. Senior move managers are professionals who specialize in helping older adults downsize and move. They can:

• Evaluate the contents of the old home and the space available in the new one.
• Work with the senior to figure out how much will fit in the new home, often with a floor plan.
• Help sort and make decisions about what to keep, give to family, sell or donate.
• Manage the packing and moving, then unpack and set up the new home.

Some senior move managers also organize estate sales, arrange donation pickups and call disposal services for what’s left. They’re attentive to the stress that comes with this work and will often break the job into manageable steps, coming in to pack for just a few hours at a time.

Your SRES® can refer you to a senior move manager in your area, or you can search the directory of the National Association of Senior and Specialty Move Managers (NASMM) or call (877) 606-2766. If you’re hiring movers, read my guide to choosing a moving company for a senior move and avoiding scams.

For families packing and moving on their own, start well in advance. Set small, achievable daily goals and make a plan for tackling each room. Packing can be emotionally draining for everyone, so break up the work and find ways to make it more enjoyable. My guide to why downsizing seems impossible and what you can do about it may help, too.

Resources for Senior Home Sellers

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Books and Guides

Moving in the Right Direction, by Bruce Nemovitz (Book Publishers Network, 2006)
A senior’s guide to moving and downsizing from the family home to senior housing.

AARP Foundation’s Guide to Public Benefits in California
A plain-language overview of the benefit programs available to older Californians.

General and Local Resources

Eldercare Locator
Finds local resources for older adults and caregivers; a public service of the U.S. Administration on Aging.
eldercare.acl.gov or (800) 677-1116

National Council on Aging BenefitsCheckUp
Helps you find government and private benefit programs you may qualify for.
benefitscheckup.org

Sourcewise (Santa Clara County Area Agency on Aging)
Information and referral for senior services, caregiver support and Meals on Wheels in Santa Clara County.
mysourcewise.com

Financial Considerations

Low Income Home Energy Assistance Program (LIHEAP)
Help with utility bills and energy-related costs, administered in California by the Department of Community Services and Development.
csd.ca.gov and acf.hhs.gov/ocs/programs/liheap

Reverse Mortgages
How reverse mortgages work and what to watch out for, from the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau.
consumerfinance.gov/consumer-tools/reverse-mortgages

California Proposition 19 (Base Year Value Transfers)
The State Board of Equalization’s official guidance on transferring a property tax base.
boe.ca.gov/prop19

Supplemental Security Income (SSI)
Information on the SSI program and eligibility requirements.
ssa.gov/ssi or (800) 772-1213

IRS Publication 523, Selling Your Home
The IRS rules on the home sale exclusion, basis and reporting.
irs.gov/publications/p523

Healthcare

Alzheimer’s Association
The leading voluntary health organization in Alzheimer’s care, support and research, with a 24/7 helpline.
alz.org or (800) 272-3900

Centers for Medicare & Medicaid Services (CMS)
Information on eligibility, programs and coverage rules.
cms.gov

Medicare
Details on the Medicare program, including coverage, providers and costs.
medicare.gov or (800) 633-4227

HICAP (Health Insurance Counseling and Advocacy Program)
Free, unbiased Medicare counseling for Californians.
aging.ca.gov or (800) 434-0222

Aging Life Care Association
The professional association for Aging Life Care Professionals® (formerly geriatric care managers), with a searchable directory.
aginglifecare.org

Housing

California Community Care Licensing
Look up licenses and inspection reports for assisted living (RCFE) and other care facilities.
cdss.ca.gov

How Continuing Care Retirement Communities Work
AARP on how to choose a continuing care retirement community.
aarp.org

National Organizations, Programs and Other Resources for Caregivers
AARP can help you find groups, services and support to help you care for a loved one.
aarp.org

National Association of Senior and Specialty Move Managers (NASMM)
Learn about professional senior moving services and find a move manager in your area.
nasmm.org or (877) 606-2766

Legal Considerations

National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys
Information on estate planning, probate and other elder legal concerns, plus a directory of elder law attorneys.
naela.org or (703) 942-5711

Justice in Aging (formerly the National Senior Citizens Law Center)
Legal information and advocacy for low-income older adults.
justiceinaging.org

SNAP (CalFresh) for Seniors
Special SNAP eligibility rules for older and disabled households; in California the program is called CalFresh.
fns.usda.gov and getcalfresh.org

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